Dubai is WONDERFUL! I, Adil, would vouch for it. Dubai is simply great because it gives you what you want and I can say that with confidence. But this confident attitude was never always my style and I developed it in a beautiful way.

My belief is that there’s a difference between being shy and reserved. The former is more related to low self-esteem and being reserved is like knowing that you are drawing the line how much you want to let other people know you. Being reserved is more of achoice you make but professionally and personally both traits prove to be a disadvantage.

Unfortunately, I used to fall in the former category and my biggest problem was that whenever I liked a girl I could never approach her due to lack of confidence. I have been a shy guy not a nerd in the typical sense, but yes, astronomy amuses me. My favorite spot in the house was my rooftop where I would spent hours gazing at the voluminous sky above. It is such an irony, I think sometimes, that people, take things offered by nature for free granted. So, I always wanted a person who could understand me and share my passion. Well, I have heard about opposites attract but I believe that the differences may amuse you in the beginning but compatibility issues will hit you in the face when the infatuation starts to settle. So, when I am looking for a long term relationship, I need someone who’s like me in some or the other way. It is similar tochoosing a job profile that suits you and not that seems ‘in’in the job market because you need to have the skill and aptitude for it in the long run.

My cousins would always mock me and tried to coax me to meet girls in their friend circle. But I simply refused. However, I decided to go to my first cousin Junaid’s 25th birthday party in one of the popular clubs in the town. His gang of friends was huge and he always invited me to random parties but I would make it to only a few ones due to my shyness (read reluctance) to meet new people.  But I had to go to this party as it was his birthday.Not many people close to me know that I have always admired Dubai’s night life. It’s quite happening. It would be very correct to say that the night life of Dubai has a unique character of its own. As soon as the sun sets and neon lights take center stage, it becomes an absolute delight to soak oneself into the beautiful ambience. But I would enjoy it all alone driving through the well-lit streets in my car. But now I decided to make a change and go to the latest party and make new friends. Phew, it seemed a whole lot of gigantic task but nevertheless, I decided to go out!

Theclubwas a swanky one and as soon as I entered the reservedarea, Junaid greeted me with a big hug. The party was going well, girls and boys dancing, chatting and flirting. I soon took adrink and found a cozy corner to watch the drama unfold. After a few minutes, Junaid just startled me and introduced me to his friends-a bunch of pretty girls who looked gorgeous in their equally pretty dresses. I kept smiling and shook hands with all of them. But one of the girls, Anisha, wearing a peach dress looked so gorgeous that I could hardly take my eyes off her. I couldn’t distract myself from her. In a minute, all the girls scattered on the dance floor and soon my eyes were searching for the prettiest girl in the gang.

The club party had a very modern architecture and a beautiful seating arrangement. People were all over the place chit -chatting and I found myself awkward going up toAnisha and asking for dance. Well, I was just glancing at her after short intervals and she sometimes smiled back at me from another corner of the dance floor. Well by sometimes, I mean a couple of times (well everyone wants to exaggerate about their crush), umm, but I am being honest with you. I suddenly thought what I was doing there and was making a fool of myself. I saw a young boy going towards her and havinga conversation with her. May be he was asking for a dance with her. But all I could see that she waved off her hand with a polite smile which seemed that she was refusing to dance with him. Was she waiting for me? I asked myself. Shall I go or wait for her to come over to me. Nah, I thought to myself. “Am I being too self-centered and believing that things will happen on their own? Am I giving too much importance to myself and expect others to do what I expect them to do. ? No, this is not going to happen. I mustered the courage and went upto Anisha. As I was walking towards her she was busy chatting with her girlfriends and pretended that she hasn’t seen me coming towards her. I interrupted the girly conversations and asked her politely to dance with me. She looked at me and smiled and said yes. Yes! She said yes, I mean how difficult that was. It is similar to that we have solutions in front of our eyes but we don’t want to take matters in our hands. It was the first time I danced like never before. It felt so good.

But I made amistake. Fortunately Junaid came to my rescue. It so happened that after the dance, when we all gathered together, Junaid asked Anisha her choice of drink. Well, my mistake was that in order to appear confident, I just ordered a mock tail of my choice for her. How dare I could think like that, I mean everyone has their own preference?

When you are in doubt just ask and that’s the best way to put it. How I didn’t know what Anisha likes, it was I who should be asking her as to what she would like to have. Similarly, when you are writing down your resume, you should ask yourself as to what your preference of order is -whether you like to have a good company, a good salary or a satisfying job profile that matches your skills and mention it clearly in your resume.

Lesson learnt! I never gave athought that Junaid and his bunch of friends and of course my other cousins would be ready to pull my leg. After theparty was over, they didn’t spare me!  But it was all worth it as Anisha and I had exchanged numbers and after a few dates, we are very much in love today.

So, what I have learned that you must seek the most opportune moment and never be afraid to ask. If you are confused, ask, simply because you’ll get an answer, it will be either positive or negative, it won’t confuse you. All you need to have the courage to accept refusal. Similarly, like in an interview, where you must show up to present yourself with confidence, grace and a spunk which a HR manager will probably notice. Your clear mind and attitude is likely to land up you the desired job of course you should have the skill and aptitude for it.

Every HR in different industry would like to see a resume that is tailored-made to suit that industry. So, one size fits all- theory does not even apply here. Do you know that while I was searching for my dream job, I would simply post my old resume on every job portal?  I didn’t know that if I’m interested in Astrophysics teaching job then the resume should be tailored made to the same job profile and clearly depict my intentions. Also, my profile looked as if I was applying half-heartedly! Oh Boy! How wrong I was until I reached out to a professional company that enlightened me about the fact that a professional resume can present you in the best manner and of course acustomized onesuitable for a particular industry can be created! Today, I’m working as a lecturer teaching physics, Astrophysics, Astronomy to students in a well-known university, thanks to a popular resume writing and CV Distribution Company. But wait did I mention that Anisha too loves Astronomy!!!

So, when you seeking a job in Dubai, don’t be naïve like me. Do your homework-well, it’s always better to learn from other mistakes. Most importantly know that if something is not working, it is being for a reason. Secondly, ask questions. If you are hesitant about something, don’t be afraid to ask. Thirdly, reach out to professionals, they are going to lead you in the best manner towards getting your desired job!

Wish you all, the best of luck and hope you get what you want in your professional and personal lives! Amen!